Stacey Bessard, LMFT “Let’s sit with that.” It is a phrase we hear often—from therapists and non-therapists alike. You may have been encouraged to “sit with your feelings,” or perhaps you have offered the same advice to someone else. But how do you sit with your feelings when the experience feels uncomfortable, abstract, or overwhelming? As beautiful and compassionate as the phrase sounds, what does it actually mean? How long is a moment? When can I get up? What am I supposed to do while I am...

Imagine this... You've been out of a relationship for years. You've done the work. You've taken time to heal. You've learned from your past. Maybe you've even gone to therapy. Finally, you feel ready to put yourself back out there. Then you meet someone. At first, they feel like a breath of fresh air. They're attentive. The conversations flow naturally. They seem different from anyone you've dated before. For the first time in a long time, you begin imagining what this relationship could...

Have you ever found yourself asking, "Why does this keep happening to me?" Maybe every relationship seems to end the same way. You keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners, struggle to trust others, avoid conflict, or feel like you're always giving more than you receive. It can be frustrating to watch the same patterns repeat, especially when you're genuinely trying to make different choices. The truth is, repeating patterns doesn't mean something is wrong with you. More often, it means...